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ADHD & Social Anxiety
Understanding how ADHD and social anxiety can feel, how they differ, and how they may sometimes appear together – with gentle, practical ways to look after yourself.
Understanding Social Anxiety
ADHD and social anxiety are distinct experiences. They can occur together, but one does not automatically mean the other, and not everyone with ADHD experiences social anxiety.
Some social difficulties linked with ADHD may come from things like losing track of a conversation, interrupting, or forgetting plans. Social anxiety is generally described as an intense, ongoing fear of being judged or embarrassed in social situations.
ADHD-related social experiences
May involve attention drifting, impulsive comments, time blindness or overwhelm in busy spaces. Worry may follow afterwards rather than come first.
Social anxiety
Often centres on a persistent fear of judgement, which may lead to avoiding situations or feeling dread beforehand. A healthcare professional can help explore this.
Whatever you experience, your feelings are valid, and gentle support is available. 💜
Gentle tools to try
Practical coping strategies
These ideas will not suit everyone. Pick one or two that feel manageable, and go at your own pace.
🌈 Prepare in practical ways
Check the time, place and travel route in advance. Jot down a few conversation starters or questions so there is less to hold in your head.
🦋 Start with manageable situations
Build confidence gradually with smaller, shorter or more familiar social settings before moving on to ones that feel harder.
☁️ Plan breaks
It is okay to step outside, find a quiet corner or leave early. Planning a break beforehand can make it easier to take one.
⭐ Check your assumptions
When you think “everyone noticed”, pause and ask: what is the evidence? Is there another explanation? What would I say to a friend?
💗 Practise self-compassion
Interrupting or losing track happens. Try responding to yourself kindly rather than replaying the moment over and over.
🌿 Notice what helps
Keep a simple note of which settings, people or routines feel easier, so you can plan around what works for you.
🤝 Seek appropriate support
If social anxiety is affecting daily life, speak to your GP or an appropriately qualified healthcare professional about assessment and support options.
📘 Learn about CBT
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is one talking therapy often discussed for social anxiety. A healthcare professional can explain whether it may suit you.
Reflection activity ✿
Before and after a social event
Take your time with these gentle prompts. There are no right or wrong answers – they are simply a way to notice patterns and be kind to yourself.
🌤 Before
- What am I worried might happen?
- How much energy do I have today?
- What would help me feel more comfortable?
- Who could I stay near, or check in with?
- How long would I like to stay, and how will I leave?
🌈 After
- What actually happened, compared with what I feared?
- What went well, even something small?
- Am I replaying any moments? What might a kind friend say about them?
- How does my body feel now, and what do I need to rest?
- What would I like to try next time?
Toolkit & Next Steps
Take what feels helpful, leave the rest, and keep exploring at your own pace.
Downloadable worksheet
Reflection Worksheet
A gentle, printable space to work through this page's reflection prompts, notice your patterns and plan one small, kind next step. Worksheet download coming soon.
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🦋 ADHD & Boundaries
Gentle ways to protect your time, energy and attention.
☁️ ADHD & Emotional Exhaustion
Noticing when you are running on empty and making room to rest.
🌈 ADHD & Social Anxiety
Two distinct experiences that can sometimes overlap.
⭐ ADHD & Imposter Syndrome
When achievements feel like luck, and how to own your progress.
Explore the ADHD Toolkit
Planners, prompts and practical tools to support everyday life with ADHD.
ADHD & Me shares general educational information and lived experiences. It does not replace professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Please speak to an appropriately qualified healthcare professional about individual concerns.
Professional disclaimer
ADHD & Me shares general educational information and lived experiences. It does not replace professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Please speak to an appropriately qualified healthcare professional about individual concerns.